DO WE HAVE TO KISS FROGS???


I was telling my parents about my Match.com dates. My mother asked me why I wasn’t “doing J Date”. I know J Date is for Jewish singles, but how does my mother know this?  Of course… some of her Mahjong friends date. “You know, Jewish men make good providers”, she tells me- like she’s never said it before.

I’m Jewish. I consider myself “Jewish-Lite” kind of like Bud-Lite. One of my brothers says he’s a “Recovering Jew”. My mother insists we are “Culturally Jewish”.  All translate to being Jews but not so much religious…  My ex was Catholic. In fact I have never even dated anyone Jewish. Unless you count the 6th grade- we had ice cream or my “coffee date”.  Not that I am against dating Jewish. The area in which I live is not heavily populated with Jews.

So, I decided to try J Date. But I’ve already paid for 6 months of Match.com.  Now I have to pay for J Date? Not that I’m being cheap or anything… Look it’s on sale! HALF OFF!!! Such a deal! I have to join! I’m so proud! Why am I suddenly typing with a New York Jewish accent? I sound like Barbra Streisand in my head! OY VEY! It’s on sale… I buy… I date… If only I had a Shadchen — Matchmaker. This is the correct Yiddish term, not Yenta. A Yenta is just a talkative, gossipy woman.

I sign up. Not very creative,  I copy and paste my Match profile. Being in my forties I’ll date 40-55. I don’t want to have children yadda, yadda, yadda… Put up the cute pics of me and enter…

Ok, in a 25 mile radius of my home there are 4 Jews. Yup 4! Oh and there’s my coffee date guy.  So 3 Jews I haven’t had coffee with. And can I say they are ummm… let’s see… how do I say it…. Ummm  not so attractive? Yea there ya go! Great! Shut off the computer and go to bed. #FAIL !

But low and behold the next morning I check my J Date.  64 people viewed me!  E mail: 11, flirted with me: 7 (that is equivalent to the Match “wink”),  favorite me: 4, put me on their hot list: 3.  Wow I’ve got some action. Whoo whoo!  How bad can this be? It has been less than 24 hours! Let’s check out what this Jewish princess is reeling in!

So I look. Oh. Um. Oh. Let’s see. A Doctor. This picture is not soo bad. Oh, that’s because it was taken when he went to Harvard… around 40 years ago! Hello??? Did you read my profile? I am not looking for someone in their 70’s… oh and look most recent photo… yes he looks like Gene Shalit. There’s a match- not.

Well we know there is no one in a 25 mile radius of where I live. But could we stay in New England (that’s where I live)? Wow I have Tel Aviv, NY, CA, Canada! Really? My profile says 25 miles from my zip code. Do they not know Geography? Maybe they don’t need to- they make good providers! How about age? Never mind the 60 and 70 year olds. I have a 28-year-old from Brooklyn, NY, a 27-year-old from Poland (now that’s a long distance relationship- what am I supposed to read him bed time stories over the phone?), and a 32-year-old from N Hollywood, CA. I have to say no when they are closer to my daughter’s age then mine. Not a cougar. My favorite?? The guy from Flushing, NY. He looks like a Rabbi, beard and all. I quickly copy and paste his pic and Gene’s pic to an email and send it to my mother with the note “thanx for having me join J Date. Which one do you want for your future son-in-law?”

She resplied “sometimes you have to kiss a lot of frogs…” Thanks Mom.

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Posted on May 1, 2012, in age, dating, divorce, humor, J Date, Jewish dating, Jewish Singles, Jews, love, Match.com, On line dating, over 40, POF, relationships and tagged , , , , , , , . Bookmark the permalink. 5 Comments.

  1. that was a nice reading, thank u for sharing with me

  2. As much as I love reading your blog. My wish is that you find someone that deserves the love and attention you have to offer. I just hope I/we get to read that story as well. 😉

  3. Oh no no, I refuse to kiss frogs…I prefer to stay away from them, and I think it’s wise of you to do so too! They tell us we’re too picky…I don’t think so!!!! But I’m not sure I’d be as brave as you to subscribe to dating websites…I think it’s risky, weird, I don’t know…I prefer to just read online forums, blogs and social networks discussions, see if anyone’s interesting enough according to the opinions they voice in those places and, if they sound nice enough, contact them and see if the conversation flows…and if they live close enough to me LOL Long distance relationships suck and never work 😦

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